It’s Summer… Why Am I So Tired?
Listening to Your Energy in a Season That Wants You “On”
At our last women’s circle of the year, something very real came up.
Around the room, women shared versions of the same feeling:
“It’s summer… but I don’t feel the summer energy yet.”
“Everyone else seems switched on. I just feel tired.”
If that’s landing for you too, take a breath.
You are not the odd one out. You’re not failing summer.
You’re just in a different season on the inside - and that deserves honouring.
This is especially true if you’re moving through perimenopause or menopause. The world is turning up the volume - holidays, heat, social plans - while your body and nervous system might be quietly whispering:
“Please… can we go a bit slower?”
So how do you meet the outward, fiery energy of summer when you’re not feeling very fiery at all?
Let’s explore that together.
When Summer Wants “Big Energy” and You Just… Don’t
We’re sold a very specific summer story:
Big social calendars
Long, light-filled days of doing
Saying yes to every invite, catch up, BBQ, and beach day
“Make the most of it!” and “Live your best life!”
But real life looks a lot more like:
Hormonal changes that bring their own internal heat (hello, perimenopause flushes and frayed patience)
Emotional load - family dynamics, end-of-year fatigue, decisions about “what next?”
A body that feels a bit slower… even when the sun is high and the days are long
Here’s the truth:
You don’t owe summer a performance.
You are allowed to enjoy this season in a way that supports you, not drains you.
The Heat Outside, The Heat Inside
If you’re in perimenopause, summer can feel like double heat:
Heat from the weather
Heat from your hormones and nervous system
You might notice:
Hot flushes feel more intense
Sleep is lighter or disturbed
Your tolerance is lower than usual
You crave quiet but feel guilty saying no
Nothing has gone wrong. Your body is doing exactly what it knows how to do - it’s just asking for a different kind of care right now.
Instead of pushing yourself to match everyone else’s energy, try asking:
“What would feel kind to my body today?”
“How can I soften this heat, inside and out?”
Gentle Ways to Meet Summer (Without Burning Out)
You don’t have to opt out of the season completely.
You also don’t have to fully surrender to the “go hard, do more” summer script.
There is a middle ground.
1. Redefine What “Summer Energy” Means for You
Summer doesn’t have to mean constant high energy. It can mean:
A slow morning on the deck with your tea
Reading in the shade while everyone else is in the pool
Saying “yes” to one social thing a week instead of five
Letting yourself leave early instead of being the last one there
“Outward energy” can be simple:
a lunch with one soul friend, a gentle beach walk, a short strength session, a phone call that makes you feel seen.
Let your body decide what summer looks like.
2. Use the “Sacred Pause” Before You Say Yes
Before you automatically say yes to:
another BBQ
another family event
another favour
another round of drinks
…try this:
Take one slow breath in and out.
Ask: “What do I actually have the capacity for?”
Let your body answer before your people-pleaser does.
If it’s a no, or a “yes, but only for an hour”, honour that.
That tiny sacred pause is where you gently step from passenger to driver in your own life.
3. Let Joy Be Small, Not Performative
If you’re tired or tender, big “bucket list” summer plans might feel overwhelming.
Try micro-joy instead:
One song you dance to in the kitchen, badly and freely
Eating a mango on the back step with the juice running down your wrist
Floating in the ocean for five minutes
Lying on the floor under the fan doing absolutely nothing
Joy doesn’t have to be loud to be real.
Tiny pockets of presence can be deeply regulating - especially when your inner climate is already running hot.
Something to Look Forward To After the Heat of Summer
Sometimes what helps us get through an outward, busy season is knowing there’s a soft place to land on the other side.
As summer eventually starts to cool and the first whispers of autumn appear, we’ll be gathering for a day that’s all about turning inward again.
Summer → Autumn Transition Day Retreat
Sunday 1st March 2026
A gentle day to:
Exhale after the intensity and heat of summer - outside and inside
Soothe your nervous system with simple, grounding practices
Reflect on what this season has stirred up for you
Begin shifting into the slower, more reflective energy of autumn
Think of it as pressing pause on everyone else’s expectations
and pressing play on your own inner rhythm.
✨ Early Bird Special is now available
If your body did a tiny “yes” while reading this, you can read more and book your spot here:
You’re Allowed to Meet Summer on Your Terms
You don’t have to be the most social, the most fun, the most glowing version of yourself to “do summer right.”
You’re allowed to:
Protect your energy
Choose gentle over hectic
Honour what your perimenopausal body is asking for
Move slowly in a fast, bright season
This summer, may you remember:
You are not here to keep up.
You are here to be you - even (and especially) when that looks softer, quieter, and more intentional than the world expects.
From our hearts to yours,
Big love,
Kelly & Anna xxx
